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Resources for Families

PAIL Network creates booklets and handouts that may provide additional information about the unique grief and care needs that often accompany pregnancy and infant loss.  Booklets are free to families, and you can request a printed copy by emailing us at pailnetwork@sunnybrook.ca

If you have medically related questions surrounding your loss or any feelings you may be experiencing, visit a healthcare provider or make an appointment with your family doctor if you have one. He/she can help answer any questions you have regarding physical or mental health.

If you feel like you need support, don’t hesitate to connect with us. We are here to listen and help.

Distress & Crisis Supports

If you need help in an emergency or are in crisis:

Booklets for Families

Milk Production After Loss

Milk Production After Loss

After a pregnancy or infant loss, your body may start to make milk or will continue to make milk if you have already been breast or chest* feeding. While some people may start earlier, it is most common when a person has a loss after 15-16 weeks gestational age in a pregnancy. Many people find milk production very sad, shocking, and distressing, as this is another reminder of your baby that died or your pregnancy that ended. Many people say they feel anger towards their body or the situation, or deep distress that their body is making food for a baby that isn’t there. Some people feel pride when they make milk. Many people feel a mix of emotions. However you feel, you are not alone.

 

Handout for families

Milk Production After Loss

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Support for Grandparents

The grief that is experienced by a grandparent may feel as if it is in layers- one layer is the sadness you feel as you mourn the loss of your grandbaby, and the other is the pain you experience watching your child grieve.  Many grandparents have described the difficulty they have navigating through this, as they seek to offer love and support to their child, while still needing to tend to their own heartache.

PAIL Network would like to thank Lysa Toye for her expertise in creating this resource for grandparents.  We hope it will bring you some comfort and give you some ideas about how to care for yourself, and for your family after a pregnancy or infant loss.

Support for Grandparents

Helping Others Understand Your Grief

When you are grieving the loss of your baby, it can be challenging for others to know how to support you.  Grief is unique to each person who experiences it, and we have learned from families that trying to explain what they need or what would be helpful can feel like an additional burden for them to carry.  Please read through these suggestions, and consider sharing them with your family members, friends, co-workers, and employer.  These guides can also be printed, if that is easier for you.

PAIL Network would like to thank Lysa Toye for her expertise in creating these resources.  We hope they will help you create a strong support system as you grieve.

Helping Others Understand Your Grief

Family Members

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Employers

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