Resource library

Resources for families

On this page you will find a list of suggested community groups, forums and resources. The below resources are intended for informational use only, and are not affiliated with or endorsed by Pregnancy and Infant Loss (PAIL) Network or Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre (SHSC). Information in these resources does not replace medical advice. If you have medically related questions surrounding your loss or any feelings you may be experiencing, visit a health-care provider or make an appointment with your family doctor if you have one. He/she can help answer any questions you have regarding physical or mental health.

If you feel like you need support, either in-person or over the phone, don’t hesitate to connect with us. We are here to listen and help.

Recommended reading

Publications

Help, Comfort and Hope After Losing Your Baby in Pregnancy or the First Year

Author: Hannah Lothrop
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Date: 12-Aug-04
ISBN-10: 738209651
ISBN-13: 9780738209654
Keywords: Miscarriage,Stillbirth

All That is Seen and Unseen: A Journey Through A First Trimester Miscarriage

Author: Elizabeth Petrucelli
Publisher: Dragonfly Press, LLC
Date: 23-Feb-12
ISBN-10: 738209651
ISBN-13: 9780738209654
Keywords: Miscarriage,Stillbirth

About What Was Lost: Twenty Writers on Miscarriage, Healing and Hope

Author: Jessica Berger Gross
Publisher: Plume
Date: 26-Dec-06
ISBN-10: 452287995
ISBN-13: 9780452287990
Keywords: Miscarriage

Three Minus One: Stories of Parents’ Love and Loss

Author: Sean Hanish
Publisher: She Writes Press
Date: 06-May-14
ISBN-10: 193814808
ISBN-13: 9781938314803
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Loss

Stillbirth, Yet Still Born: Grieving and Honoring Your Precious Baby

Author: Deborah L. Davis
Publisher: Fulcrum Publishing
Date: 01-Jul-14
ISBN-10: 193846331
ISBN-13: 9781938486333
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth

An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination

Author: Elizabeth McCracken
Publisher: Back Bay Books
Date: 22-Feb-10
ISBN-10: 316027669
ISBN-13: 9780316027663
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Humour

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion and Other Pregnancy Loss

Author: Kim Kluger-Bell
Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks
Date: 26-Apr-00
ISBN-10: 068817390X
ISBN-13: 9780688173906
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion, Termination

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Author: Deborah L. Davis
Publisher: Fulcrum Publishing
Date: 01-Nov-16
ISBN-10: 1936218240
ISBN-13: 9781936218240
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Loss, Late Term Loss, Grief

Naming the Child: Hope-Filled Reflections on Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death

Author: Jenny Schroedel
Publisher: Paraclete Press
Date: 01-Mar-09
ISBN-10: 1557255857
ISBN-13: 9781557255853
Keywords: Christian, Spiritual, Miscarriage,Stillbirth,Infant Death

SIDS & Infant Death Survival Guide

Author: Joani Nelson Horchler & Robin Rice
Publisher: SIDS Education Services Inc.
Date: 15-Jun-11
ISBN-10: 964121808
ISBN-13: 9780964121805
Keywords: SIDS, Infant Loss, Grief

For Couples

Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a couple through survivors personal and professional insights

Author: Nathalie Himmelrich Kat
Publisher: Biggie Press
Date: 30-Sep-14
ISBN-10: 989934748
ISBN-13: 9780989934749
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Death, Couples, Fathers

For Better or Worse: For Couples Whose Child Has Died

Author: Maribeth Wilder Doerr
Publisher: Centering Corp
Date: Dec-92
ISBN-10: 1561230537
ISBN-13: 9781561230532
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Death, Child Loss, Couples, Fathers

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives

Author: Sherokee Ilse
Publisher: Wintergreen Press Inc
Date: 01-Oct-08
ISBN-10: 1883525039
ISBN-13: 9781883525033
Keywords: Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Death, Couples, Fathers

Pregnancy After Loss

Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy after Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss

Author: Ann Douglas & John R. Sussman
Publisher: Taylor Trade Publishing
Date: 01-Oct-00
ISBN-10: 0878331824
ISBN-13: 9780878331826
Keywords: Subsequent Pregnancy

Pregnancy After A Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss

Author: Carol Cirulli Lanham
Publisher: Berkeley
Date: 01-Oct-99
ISBN-10: 0425170470
ISBN-13: 9780425170472
Keywords: Subsequent Pregnancy

How I Came to Hold You

Author: Ben Wakeling

Celebrating Pregnancy Again: Restoring the lost joys of pregnancy after the loss of a child

Author: Franchesca Cox
Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
Date: 19-Jan-13
ISBN-10: 1481220411
ISBN-13: 9781481220415
Keywords: Subsequent Pregnancy, Loss of a Child

Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Child Dies

Author: Alan Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Date: 01-Apr-02
ISBN-10: 1879651300
ISBN-13: 9781879651302
Keywords: Grief

Child Loss

I Walked A Mile With Sorrow: For Bereaved Parents, Family, and Friends

Author: Mary S. Cleckley
Publisher: Centering Corporation
Date: 01-Nov-06
ISBN-10: 1561231940
ISBN-13: 9781561231942
Keywords: Grief, Child Loss, Friends & Family

Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child

Author: Ellen Mitchell
Publisher: St. Martin’s Griffin
Date: 03-Mar-09
ISBN-10: 0312545093
ISBN-13: 9780312545192
Keywords: Grief, Child Loss

Dear Parents: Letters to Bereaved Parents from Bereaved Parents

Author: Various
Publisher: Centering Corporation
Date: Jun-89
ISBN-10: 1561230332
ISBN-13: 9781561230334
Keywords: Child Loss, Miscarriage, Stiillbirth, Grief

Journalling & Record Books

Infinite Hugs: Baby Memory Journal

Author: M Vrana Anger
Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
Date: 08-Dec-13
ISBN-10: 1492946451
ISBN-13: 9781492946458
Keywords: Journal, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Record Book

Find support

Below is list of Canadian pregnancy & infant loss support groups and online resources categorized by province.

Alberta

Alberta Health Services Pregnancy and Infant Loss Program
albertahealthservices.ca
Provides information, guidance, intervention and grief support to parents and family members who have experienced a pregnancy loss (miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, still birth, neonatal death or termination). Offers individual, couple, and group counselling.

Angel Whispers (Edmonton area)
angelwhispers.ca

Offers support and hosts groups for those who’ve experienced the loss of a baby and for those experiencing a subsequent pregnancy. Offers sessions devoted to creative healing through projects such as scrapbooking, memory books and steppingstones.

Briar Patch Center for Grieving Families (Edmonton Area)
briarpatchgrief.com
Offers individual & family counseling and programs for children who are grieving. A program of the Pilgrims Hospice Society.

Caring Beyond (Calgary)
facebook.com/caringbeyond
Offers peer support to parents who have lost a baby due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, neonatal death and termination due to poor prenatal diagnosis. Has regular support meetings and online support.

Grieving Parents Society (Edmonton)
grievingparents.ca

Offers and peer support and support group for parents grieving the death of a child, regardless of age or circumstance.

H.E.A.R.T.S Baby Loss Support Program (Alberta & Saskatchewan)
heartsbabyloss.ca
Offers monthly support groups in through various chapters. a resource lending library, an annual Baby Steps Memorial Walk to Remember and an annual Candle Light Service. Support groups include a pregnancy after loss group.

Parent Care (Edmonton)
parent-care.ca
Support group made up of Parents Helping Parents who have suffered the loss of a baby through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth or early infant death up to 28 days. Group meets monthly to share experiences, exchange information, and offer support. Any parent, family member or friend that has been touched by the loss of a baby is welcome.

Reproductive Mental Health Support Program
albertahealthservices.ca/services
Provides support to women who are struggling with anxiety, depression, stress and/or grief related to reproductive issues. Short term individual, couple, and/or group support with a Mental Health Therapist or Psychologist at no charge.

SIDS Calgary
sidscalgary.ca
Provides support to families, educates healthcare professionals as well as the public, and raises funds for SIDS research. Provides a 24 Hour Hotline for anyone who needs support at any time of the day.

Tiny Hands of Hope Society (Grande Prairie)
tinyhandsofhope.ca
Non-profit organization built to help families touched by all types of infant loss, including pregnancy loss, neonatal loss, stillbirth, SIDs and infant death to age of 24 months. It is directed by a dedicated group of volunteers whose lives have been touched by the loss of a child.

 

British Columbia

BC Bereavement Helpline
bcbereavementhelpline.com
Non-profit, free, confidential and anonymous service that connects the public to grief support services within the province of BC; including bereavement support groups, agencies, community events and other information.

BC Women’s Hospital– Pregnancy Loss (Vancouver)
bcwomens.ca
​Offers an in-person biweekly Perinatal Loss Support Group. Offers Short-term grief counselling to patients of the Early Pregnancy Assessment Clinic and Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Clinic.

Hospice Perinatal Support Program (Abbotsford)
abbotsfordhospice.org/parents
Offers a specialized grief support program for parents coping with the loss of an infant due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or within the first year of life. Clinical counsellors facilitate monthly support groups, and provide an opportunity for healing and to share loss.

Chilliwack Hospice (Chilliwack)
chilliwackhospice.org

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Grief Support Groups for parents who have lost an infant to early or late miscarriage, stillbirth or within the first year of life. This group meets monthly.

Empty Cradle (New Westminster)
emptycradle.bc.ca

Peer support group offering friendship and understanding to parents who have experienced the loss of an infant or failed pregnancy. Goal is to provide support in a safe, caring environment.

Empty Arms Support Group (Victoria)
Support for families who have experienced a pregnancy or birth loss.

Family Services (Greater Vancouver)
fsgv.ca
Team of professional counsellors available to support families following a loss.  Information on support groups and other support services in the greater Vancouver area.

Living with Loss Counselling Society of BC
livingthroughloss.ca

A not-for-profit organization that provides professional grief counselling to adults and children who have experienced any type of loss.  Subsidies for counselling are available.

Manitoba

The Compassionate Friends (Winnipeg)
tcfwinnipeg.org
An international, non-profit, non-denominational, self-help organization offering friendship, understanding, grief education and HOPE for the future to all families who are grieving the death of a child at any age from any cause including miscarriage, stillbirth, infant and adult.

Women’s Health Clinic (Winnipeg)
womenshealthclinic.org

A feminist, community health clinic offering a range of services to women of all ages. Contact to find out what support services are available.

Nova Scotia

Bereaved Families of Cape Breton
bfocb.ca

Non-profit organization providing support to those who have experienced the death of a loved one.  Support group for those who’ve lost a child.

IWK Health Centre – Pregnancy and Newborn Loss Support Group (Halifax)
iwk.nshealth.ca

Support for parents who have experienced a pregnancy loss or death of a newborn.

Ontario

Baby Steps
babysteps.com

This site was created by a family whose son died. It is connected with The Hospital for Sick Children and has many resources and interactive areas for people who want to pay tribute to their loved ones, or who want to learn more about their grief.

Bereaved Families of Ontario
bereavedfamilies.net

Helps families dealing with the death of any family member. Offers support groups for pregnancy & infant loss, for grieving siblings as well as offers memorial events, workshops, phone support and creative-expression workshops that facilitate mourning and memorialization.

Mount Sinai Hospital Late Loss Late Loss Bereavement Support Group
mountsinai.on.ca
Weekly support group for women who have experienced a recent (within the past year) late pregnancy loss, including spontaneous loss and loss due to incompatibility with life.  Women who have experienced neonatal death are also eligible to attend. Facilitated by a psychiatrist & social worker.

Quebec

The Centre for Reproductive Loss (Montreal)
crl-rho.org

Provides professional support services to families affected by such loss as miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, adoption, SIDS, infertility and sterility.

Quebec Association for Parents Living with Perinatal Mourning
parentsorphelins.org
Support for those who’ve lost a child in pregnancy, childbirth or in the first year of life. Offers in person meetings, online and phone support, activities and events.

Saskatchewan

Empty Arms Perinatal Loss Support (Saskatoon)
emptyarmspls.com
Bereavement support to baby loss families before, during, and/or after the birth of their baby.  Support groups in Saskatoon.

International & national resources

Below is a list of international and national online resources and support forums about pregnancy and infant loss.

General bereavement resources

American Pregnancy Association
americanpregnancy.org

Non-profit society offering education, support, advocacy and awareness for pregnancy related issues. Has a toll-free help line to assist those facing pregnancy issues, including pregnancy and infant loss.

Bereaved Parents of the USA
bereavedparentsusa.org

U.S. non-profit (with chapters) founded by bereaved parents. Offers support, understanding, compassion and hope to bereaved parents, grandparents or siblings.

The Centering Corporation (USA)
centering.org
Non-profit organization provides education and resources for the bereaved. Offers a list of suggested resources specific to the death of an infant or child, and publishes the Grief Digest, a quarterly magazine supporting grieving people and caregivers.

Compassionate Friends (International)
compassionatefriends.org
Provides comfort, hope, and support to every family member experiencing the death of a loved one, and helps others assist the grieving family. Online support and communities available. 

The COPE Foundation
copefoundation.org

New York based non-profit grief and healing organization dedicated to helping parents and families living with the loss of a child. Lots of online resources and programs available including grief support line and online support.

International Stillbirth Alliance
stillbirthalliance.org

Brings together member organizations and individual supports working towards stillbirth prevention and improvement of bereavement care worldwide. Hosts an annual, international conference.

MISS Foundation (USA)
missfoundation.org

International volunteer-based organization founded by Dr. Joanne Cacciatore that helps families who have had a stillbirth or early infant death through counseling, advocacy, research, and education services including camp for grieving kids, newsletters and their website.

Miscarriage Matters, Inc
mymiscarriagematters.org

Non-profit organization that runs a web-based community to offer global support to the survivors of miscarriage, stillbirth and early infant loss via live online chat and peer mentors for both women and men.

Postpartum Support International
www.postpartum.net

Support, education, advocacy and research for people living with infant loss, grief, and mental illness. Lots of online information and support.

Pregnancy Loss Support Program (USA)
pregnancyloss.org

Provides free nationwide telephone counseling by trained peer volunteers as well as New York City based support groups for couples who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth and newborn death.

Resolve Through Sharing (USA)
www.bereavementservices.org

Offers grief support materials and industry-leading perinatal, neonatal, paediatric, and adult death bereavement training to healthcare professionals globally, to help them provide outstanding family-centered care to patients and families experiencing loss through dying and death.

SANDS (AUSTRALIA & UK)
sands.org.au and sands.org.uk
Provides resources in the form of information, 24-hour phone and online support, groups and online forums with peer volunteers, to fully support families as well as medical and mental health professionals in all parts of stillbirth and neonatal death.

The Selani Institute (USA)
seleni.org

Non-profit organization that destigmatizes and transforms mental health and wellness by addressing the issues that challenge the emotional health of people who have experienced pre-pregnancy, pregnancy, infertility/third party reproduction, miscarriage, stillbirth, menopause, parenting and child loss. Offers support, research, programming, advocacy and online information.

SHARE Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support (USA)
nationalshare.org

Pregnancy & infant loss support community serving those whose lives are touched by the tragic death of a baby through early pregnancy loss, stillbirth or in the first few months of life.  National organization has over 75 chapters in 29 states. They offer free baby loss grief packets, a support website, chat room, grief information and many resources to newly bereaved families as well as caregivers.

Solace for Mothers (International)
solaceformothers.org
Support for women who have experienced traumatic childbirth, including the death of a baby, and are struggling with PTSD and anxiety caused by their birthing experiences. Offers online discussion board for parents and health-care providers.

Star Legacy Foundation (USA)
starlegacyfoundation.org

Non-profit focussing on stillbirth prevention, education, research, support, awareness and advocacy for better care available to families and heath care providers.  Collaborates with other organizations extensively on projects.

Online peer support and resources

Babies Remembered
wintergreenpress.org

Support material and people to help bereaved families and their caregivers.

Carly Marie Project Heal
carlymarieprojectheal.com

Carly Marie offers various projects, memorials and healing opportunities to honour the brief life of your child.

Centering Corporation
centering.org

Grief resources, books and many loss materials for different types of loss, including infant loss.

Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope
facesofloss.com
Website created to bring awareness to the issue of pregnancy and infant loss through stories and sharing.

Grief Watch
griefwatch.com

Provides bereavement and memorial products such as cards, books and memory items.

Grieve Out Loud
grieveoutloud.org

USA-based organization that offers three different services for bereaved families: a pen pal program, a private online support group, and customizable individual support in person, online, by email or over the phone.

Grieving Dads Project
grievingdads.com
Project designed to reach out to all bereaved dads and provide a conduit to share their stories. It’s goal is to bring awareness to the impacts that child loss has on fathers and to let society know that it’s okay for a father to grieve the loss of a child.

Mommy Interrupted
mommyinterrupted.org
Website created to connect families with peer-to-peer support and offer resources for parents, families, friends, and medical professionals.

A Place to Remember
aplacetoremember.com
Support materials & resources for those who have been touched by a crisis in pregnancy or death of a baby.  Jewelry, gifts, ornaments, baby announcement cards, literature, music, etc.

Reconceiving Loss 
reconceivingloss.com
Website dedicated to building a virtual community of support and solace to those who have lost a pregnancy. The site includes three main sections: HEAL, REFLECT, and SHARE.  This site is the home of Return To Zero’s story archive.

Remembering for Good
rememberingforgood.com

Loss mom, author, life coach, social worker & mental health practitioner offering support, via Skype and eJournaling to help others live fully after trauma and loss.

Return to Zero Center for Healing (Retreats)
returntozerohealingcenter.com

Developed as a result of the impact of the film, “Return to Zero” Helps women and their families find hope and healing after the death of their baby through outreach, education, and retreats.

Still Birthday
stillbirthday.com

Headquartered in Kansas City, MO, Still Birthday connects parents with professionally trained Stillbirthday Birth and Bereavement Doulas to offer emotional and physical support prior to, during and after the birth of a miscarried or stillborn baby. The site also offers multiple ideas for “farewell celebrations” that help parents to grieve.

Still Standing Magazine
stillstandingmag.com

An online magazine with a database of articles. Contributions by various authors touched by the death of a child through infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death.

What’s Your Grief
whatsyourgrief.com

Online resources with numerous articles and podcasts on various types of grief and loss.

Facing a fatal diagnosis

A Heartbreaking Choice
aheartbreakingchoice.com

This website supports women who have made the heartbreaking choice to terminate a much wanted pregnancy due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health or for the health of another fetus (selective reduction). The site also offers a private, membership-only discussion and support group.

Macie Grace Foundation (USA)
maciegracefoundation.org

Created by parents whose baby died from Trisomy 13, they offer support via email or over the phone to parents anticipating the birth of a critically ill baby or parents who have a critically ill baby in the NICU.

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep
nowilaymedowntosleep.org

Organization offers free remembrance photography to parents suffering the loss of a baby.

Perinatal ComfortCare (USA)
perinatalcomfortcare.org

Program designed for parents who have received a devastating prenatal diagnosis of “incompatible with life” and choose to continue the pregnancy. Program offers guidance by a perinatal nurse navigator, who has experience in obstetrics and provides clear and relevant information focusing on the needs of you and your baby.

Perinatal Hospice and Palliative Care (USA)
perinatalhospice.org

Helps prepare families who know their baby will die. This group provides guidance in creating birth plans, plans for living fully with the baby prior to delivery, and care for baby while dying and afterwards. USA based, but offers support internationally.

Project Sweet Peas (USA)
projectsweetpeas.com

Non-profit organization coordinated by volunteers who provide support to families of premature or sick infants and to those who have been affected by pregnancy and infant loss.

Sidelines
sidelines.org

Non-profit organization that provides international support for women and their families experiencing complicated pregnancies and premature births.  They believe families can cope more successfully with a high-risk pregnancy with appropriate medical intervention, education and a strong support system.

Loss of multiples

Multiple Births Canada – Loss Support Network 
multiplebirthscanada.org
Offers support to parents and families who have lost one, more, or all of their multiple birth children. Suggested reading lists, online resources and a “forever angels” newsletter.

CLIMB Centre for Loss in Multiple Births
climb-support.org

International non-profit organization developed to connect parents who’ve experienced the death of one or more of their twins or higher multiples at any time, from conception through birth, infancy and childhood.

Twinless Twins
twinlesstwins.org

Community for twinless twins. Provides support for twins and other multiples who have lost their twin due to death or estrangement at any age.

SIDS

Baby’s Breath Canada
babysbreathcanada.ca

Canada’s only national foundation focused on SIDS, also dedicated to reducing all sudden and unexpected infant deaths including stillbirths. Offers research, advocacy and a peer-to-peer bereavement support network.

CJ First Candle (USA)
cjfirstcandle.org
Organization focusing on reducing the rates of SIDS, SUID and stillbirth, as well as supporting those who have experienced a loss through advocacy, education and research. Publications and newsletters. Support includes peer services and a grief support line.

American SIDS Institute
sids.org

Dedicated to the prevention of sudden infant death and the promotion of infant health through an aggressive, comprehensive nationwide program of research, clinical services, education and support.

Subsequent pregnancies

PALS Pregnancy After Loss Support
pregnancyafterlosssupport.com
Community support resource for women experiencing the confusing and conflicting emotions of grief mixed with joy during the journey through pregnancy after loss.

Subsequent Pregnancy Program at Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre
sunnybrook.ca
Sunnybrook’s subsequent pregnancy program cares for women who are experiencing a pregnancy after a previous late-pregnancy loss or death of their baby during pregnancy (greater than 15 weeks), or women who have had a baby die shortly after birth (neonatal death). Women have access to a team of health-care professionals who provide expert clinical care with sensitivity and continuity.

Faith-based support services

Caleb Ministries (USA)
calebministries.org
Christian based support for women and families who have lost a baby through miscarriagestillbirthearly-infant death, or women who struggle with infertility.

Elizabeth Ministry International (USA)
elizabethministry.com
Elizabeth Ministry is an international minister offering many different services to help the Christian community. Services include: education/resources for churches/community, remembrance workshops, letters of encouragement.

Muslim Bereavement Support Services (UK)
mbss.org.uk
Non-profit organization serving the Muslim community by supporting bereaved mothers who have lost a child at any stage.

Nechama Comfort (USA)
nechamacomfort.com
Jewish non-profit organization that’s dedicated to helping all families who have experienced infant or pregnancy loss. Services include crisis intervention, support groups, guidance for clergy and medical personnel, Jewish burial support, and community awareness.